Loyola University Maryland

Tips for Families

Communicating About Alcohol and Drug Issues

 Starting college brings about some significant changes in family dynamics. Communication between student and parent can be an essential component to navigating through this intricate transition.  Students are faced with many choices as they explore and establish their own values, while simultaneously managing a new academic setting, new friendships, a new living situation, etc. Meanwhile, parents are faced with the challenge of adopting a parenting style of “mentorship” and “guidance,” which requires patience and practice.  Students are acclimating to a new level of freedom, responsibility and accountability.  Parents are learning to allow for their child’s transition into adulthood and independence in a supportive environment. 

Please click on the following link for more information:

PARENT GUIDE TO STUDENT ALCOHOL OR OTHER DRUG ISSUES


Topics of Conversation...
  • What are your personal values and expectations regarding alcohol and drug use?
  • What various social experiences would you like to have at college?  How are you achieving these social goals?  
  • How might alcohol or drug use affect a student’s academic performance, and what are your views/expectations regarding this issue?
  • In the unlikely event that your behavior led to an intervention from campus officials, how would you and your family respond?
  • What are the risks of using alcohol and/or drugs?  What are some ways to limit your risk?
  • How might your views regarding alcohol and drug use differ from those of people you are living with?  How might you deal with possible situations that may arise?
  • What is the history of alcohol and drug abuse and/or addiction in your family?  How might this impact your decisions regarding your own alcohol and drug use?  Where can you go for support?
 

Tips for Parents...

Keep it Real.

  • Be a good role model - avoid contradictions between your words and your actions.
  • Be factual and straightforward - Stay away from scare tactics.
  • Allow your son or daughter to express fears and concerns without interruption.

Click on Parent Tips link: "How to be a SMARTIE if you PARTY"

Tips for Students... 

 Be Open and Honest.

  • Be open to your parent(s)' point(s) of view.
  • Be patient with your parent and realize that you going away to college is a change for them as well.
  • Try to be as honest as possible about your expectations, fears and hopes.